The Daddy Dom Podcast -Episode 13  - New Beginnings

And welcome to the Daddy Dom Podcast.  In the future episodes, I'm going to get into different scenarios and scenes that a DDLG and DS,  you know, intimate relationship have, but I still feel I need to get out a lot of the personal growth that I've had becoming a Daddy Dom. Um, has been.  And part of that is the inception, the very beginning, the,  when did I realize that this could be something that I am? 

This is something that I am. And how do I manifest that? How do I  curate that into my everyday self, into the person that I am becoming?  And  I think it begins with  not  adding things to yourself, but  taking away all the negative things that you were.  And that really resonated with me. That was something I can't add anything to my life unless I take away or  just discard the things that were negative and preventing me from being the full person that I am.  And that included being a Daddy Dom.  Shedding the preconceptions  of what a Daddy Dom or a Dom is.  And those were all muddled and confused by, you know, the media, multimedia, the movies, the, uh,  porn hub, the, what subs were telling that they wanted and all those things.

And  some of them are resonated with me and others did not. It's like, I don't know if I am that or not. Am I?  Hmm.  So.  In the beginning, it was, for me, not adding those attributes to myself, but  taking away all the negative things that were preventing me from being the fullest person that I am, the fullest daddy that I could be. 

So I went back, and I said, hmm.  It was after a failed relationship. Because I had no idea what I was doing, and no direction, and again, all the false preconceptions and context that  being a dom was.  And I was miserable.  I'll be honest, uh, I'd made so many mistakes and really had no idea what I was doing, but I knew what I wanted to be.

And you know, that relationship showed me what I could be and it was really empowering.  So over the course of the three to a few years that I had. In total aloneness being by myself, and I think that's what it takes is it just takes a time to be within yourself to realize, you know, truly the nature of yourself, not what you're putting on for other people, not what you're, you know, the masks that we wear in everyday life, but who are we at our core. 

What's in our nature,  and what's preventing us from being there.  So realizing that, I also realized that I had all those attributes  that consist of being a Dadi Dom.  I have the personality.  I love the care of the nurture. I love the guidance. I love the teaching. Dadi Dom.  I loved all those things.  I loved all those traits. 

And I had the sexual desires of what I wanted.  Of how I needed.  Yeah. And all the kinks that came with it.  Yeah. 

Those kinks that come with being a daddy dom in a DS relationship.  They turned me on.  I wanted more of that.  But I realized those were already attributes that I had  and I just wasn't giving them to the right person, the right people, and the right environment, the right community.  I was in the wrong place. 

And so I had to shed some of those things.  I think some of that is the most difficult things that we do.  It isn't hard  to add things to your life. That's easy. You know, I want to do an extra workout. I want to start something. I'm going to do something different.  It's the taking away the things that you have relied on,  that you know most that you're comfortable with.

It's the taking away the things that you have relied on. Taking away those things are the hardest things to do.  Because it allows you to become something that  you don't know.  It's all brand new.  It's not comfortable.  But you know it's you.  That's the hardest part is taking away the things that have poisoned you. 

That have prevented you.  for becoming your full self.  Part of that  was realizing the difference between fantasy and reality.  My first sub that I had,  it was her first time of having a dom too.  And it was a very sticky situation because, you know, she expressed all the fantasies that she wanted.  And like a good Daddy Dom, you want to provide, you want to give all those fantasies. 

But on the surface, I was none of those.  I wasn't powerful.  You know, I didn't have the confidence. I didn't have any of the things that she found desirable in a fantasy situation.  And it  destroyed me.  What am I doing wrong?  How am I not doing this right?  And when I tried to do it right,  baby, I failed. I failed miserably,  but I realized at that point after that relationship ended and I spent those few years by myself  that I had to give up, I had to peel off those things, I had to discard all those negative things that I was before. 

Did I do some extreme things? Yeah, I did.  I really didn't want to be the person that I was before. I found it very superficial. Very, hmm, skin deep.  I didn't want to be that person anymore.  So,  like a lot of people who are going through a very deep and emotional transition,  They discard a lot of things and they absorb a new persona. 

And I did that.  I fully accept that. I completely  wanted to be someone, something else other than I was.  Was that the right path? Probably not, but it worked in the time. It allowed me to  become  Something else.  To absorb all those great attributes that I had over my entire life  and make them into the Daddy Dom that I wanted to be. 

That I was.  That I am.  And that was an incredibly  important period of time for me.  Realizing what my sub wanted and the fantasies that we had  didn't necessarily have to translate into those exact fantasies  because truly what a sub wants, if they give themselves to you as a dom,  they want you as a dom.  To be that fantasy. 

In future episodes,  I'm going to elaborate on this, of the different types of scenes and fantasies that you can  explore with each other.  And it doesn't have to be that particular person in that particular place being that particular thing.  It just has to be you.  Because that's what  they want. That's what you want. 

You want me being that fantasy.  And it took me a while to realize that the joy,  the  elation  of that fantasy  isn't the fantasy itself.  It's the daddy dom you're performing it with. It's the sub that you're performing that scene with. That's the exciting part.  That's the connection.  That's what we want,  the connection. 

We want to explore all those fantasies,  but we don't want to explore them.  Randos, maybe, but we want to explore them with the one we have given ourselves to in the DS Daddy Dom relationship.  Me and my little.  Yeah,  that's 

what I want.  The give, the take, the want,  the will,  the lust.  Yeah.  So in the beginning.  That's what it was.  Shedding all the things that I was to become something else.  And sometimes you have to go a little bit deeper  and be okay  with losing what you were  to become something greater than you are.  And that's what I found.

And that's what I found.  I had recorded a affirmation  audio a while back  on this subject about shedding the things that  we are due to trauma,  due to hurt,  due to a person that we've made ourselves that we're not comfortable with.  And I hope that resonates with you.  Earbuds in, stay tingly.  Be true to yourself  and that will extend to the one you want to be with the most. 

Love.  Touch.  Feel.  Trust. 

We are born whole.  We are born perfect.  We are born into this world as we should be.  A slate of  wonderment.  Perfection, happy, joyful, loving,  all of those great things.  And then,  over time,  over the years.  We experience things, and we grab them all because we're so young and we just want them all. And so we keep grabbing all these experiences and all these things and all this stuff, and we sticker ourselves all over  all these experiences.

And some are great, and some are bad, and some are detrimental, and some are absolutely glorious. And we stick them all over us.  And then we realize that some of those stickers,  some of them are poison  and they ooze into us slowly.  Some of them are scars  that run deep 

and over time these things affect us and change us.  And we try to add  more stickers, more band aids to cover up  the pain to cover up, 

to cover up our misgivings,  our downfalls.  We keep covering up ourselves. 

But where we started off, perfect. We started off  whole, pure, and happy. So why not, instead of adding more things, doing more things to make us better, which is good,  why not start  By taking things away.  Peeling off that poison.  Shedding those scars.  Letting go of those things  that  don't do us any good. 

It's sometimes easier to let go and to shed ourselves, to get rid of things, than to add more stuff, more baggage to the pile. We get weighted down so much with all that baggage.  Put it down.  Take it away.  You can apply this to all sorts of different things.  Diet.  Oh, I'm going to change my diet. I'm going to do this.

I'm going to take more vitamins. I'm going to  Take different foods.  Well, hold on.  All those good things are not going to do anything until you take something away  Take away sugar, take away, I don't know, glutens, dairy, whatever it is that's holding you back from excelling  Is you have to take those things away from you. 

Take away the nicotine, take away the alcohol, whatever it is. Take away  the emotional baggage. 

Let those things go. Take away the things that are stuck to you. So you can reveal the person you were born to be.  The one person you were. You started off perfect and then we added all this stuff  and now all we have to do is take it away. Take away the things we don't want on us.  Let go to the things that don't give anything back.

Oh, but I really like it. Yeah, you really like it, but  what does it give you?  What does it truly give you? And if the  detriments outweigh  the positive things it gives back to you, then  it's a losing battle. 

So today, I want you to think of the things you can take off of you,  peel away,  and let go.  And once we start doing those things,  the things that we want to do to improve ourselves will be exponentially that much better because you're not fighting anything anymore. You're not battling anything anymore.

It's not going two steps forward and one step back. It's just two steps forward.  Because the thing that is holding you back,  you let go. You got rid of it. You shed it from yourself.  So in this short affirmation audio today, it's all about  getting rid of the stuff that you've collected over the many years that we've been alive since we've been born so we can get back to where we were when we started  perfect  as we should be. 

Sending you loves, smiles, hugs, and kisses. Remember, earbuds in, stay tingly,  and have a fantastic day.