The Daddy Dom Podcast -  Episode 20 - Bratz 

Brats.  I never fully dove into the realm of brats.  I immediately dismissed them because it was a trait and behavior that was unpalatable  to me.  I felt like it rocked the boat on the power dynamic between a dom and a sub relationship and interactions.  But I am a perpetual student of life and its experiences.

And in the pursuit of being the best daddy dom I can be,  I decided  let's look further into brats and bratty behavior.  So I took a step back from my initial views and embraced the world of brats to get a better understanding of what that means for a sub and how to incorporate it into my own style of being a dom. 

It forced me to re evaluate how I process and react to a bratty behavior.  Like most things in the DS lifestyle, there are many variations on a theme, and brats are no different within that.  Some are full on brats in their nature, and that's just who they are. And other subs express bratty behavior for a purpose, whether that be conscious or subconscious. 

So it was important for me to define a brat versus bratty behavior.  Some brats are just attention seekers,  acting out for the sake of just acting out. To gain and keep the attention of the Dhamma. They may feel the Dhamma's eyes or attention has strayed.  And so therefore, act out accordingly to regain all the attention from the Dhamma. 

But more positively, a brat will use these tactics to establish a Dhamma's worthiness. To see if they match their own energy.  After all, a sub chooses their dom, not the other way around.  A brat might also enjoy the punishment, and by defying authority or pushing the boundaries, this gives the opportunity for a strong, dominant scenario over the brat sub. 

Bratty behavior could also be a symptom of their own insecurities. Not wanting to lose someone, or not being worth loving.  There is a misconception, though, that brats are not true subs. And, to be honest, that's how I felt. I dismissed this behavior because, to me, it created an imbalance of power. Because the brats are just aggressive in their actions or their words. 

I would become defensive and overreact. I felt agitated and provoked. But brats are submissive. I And I just needed to understand the type of submissiveness that they are.  Bratty Behavior For a sub, bratty behavior can be the result of many, many feelings.  A sub may feel uneasy within the DS dynamic. And need reassurance that that level of dominant submissive roles still exists within that relationship or scenario. 

It's a way to get the DOM to assert that role for the sub.  And a sub wants to submit. and be put in their place.  Bratty behavior may also come from being horny  and can manifest itself in playful ways of poking the dom with phrases like, make me or prove it. Is that all you got? Egging on the dom can really lead to some really, really hot DS sex play. 

Bratty behavior can also be quiet and shown through actions and not words.  They may do what is asked, but not in the way it should be done, or follow through on tasks, but leaving a mess in their wake.  One of my personal pet peeves is when a sub lightly mocks my  age.  And I'm usually older than my submissives, and I take great pride in staying in a good physical condition and a mental prowess, so that one little poke never ever sits well with me. 

But I know it's in play, so I do try to take it in stride, but let my sub know that  that's off limits.  Now, how does a Dom handle a brat?  It is my opinion that the dhamma should be well experienced in order to decipher  the brat behavior and the underlying reasons for the actions or words.  A dhamma must be good at, um, reading the room, as they say. 

We, as in Doms, must maintain a level of calm and control.  This is very, very important because the zestful interaction has the potential to go south quite quickly if not managed correctly. That  is the responsibility of the Dom and a great responsibility there is.  Here are some things I consider.  I ask myself,  how does a dom earn the respect of a brat? 

And we talked about matching the energy of that brat or sub.  What are the requirements of a brat in order to submit to a dom?  What are their preferred methods to receive directions from a dom?  And ultimately, What are they looking to get out of their brat behavior  and we spoke of Breaking and cracking the code of all these things that come out through bratty behavior and cracking that code by the DOM  difficult tasks sometimes but  I'm pretty sure that we're up for it. 

So ultimately Brats are subs  and want to be tamed  And what better way to tame a brat and a sub  than a good, solid, dominant fucking by their dom?  So I leave you with this highly sexually charged, aggressive audio  I call Taming a Brat and Sub.  Earbuds in, and stay tingly.