The Daddy Dom Podcast - Episode 9 - Punishment

On this episode, we're going to touch upon  punishment.  Now, punishment is something I'm not very good at, to be honest. I am, in everyday life, more of a gentle dom. Some would say a bit of a pushover.  But, I do have a firm opinion. side of me when I need to be  poignant  when required.  My style of Daddy Dom is that I say please at the end of a statement. 

Make sure you drink water and hydrate.  Please. Don't forget your workout. Please,  by saying please is not only polite because I'm Canadian, but it also for me reinforces that that is the end of my statement and that I want it done and it's important to me because it's important to you.  Punishment is integral  because it shows my sub that I take our  dynamic seriously  for the good.

and for the bad.  And that's important.  I want to show my sub that everything we do within our dynamic as a ds ddlg relationship is important to me.  And so if I'm disappointed,  I want to make sure that you know and you know why you're being punished.  And if my sub  disappoints me in any way,  I believe punishment is  warranted  to emphasize my disappointment. 

And to correct the actions that have been done so they may not happen again.  To punishment, I also believe that there has to be a greater reward.  I would rather reward my sub for the good things and reinforce positive actions and positive words. rather than punish the bad ones. And that's just me. That's just my daddy domicile.

I want to encourage and promote good behavior rather than punish bad behavior.  Rewards can come in the form of extra praise, a gift, more of my time.  Simple forehead kisses and more interest in being more attentive as well as more orgasms just for you.  And two, punishment,  a type of caring because I care about the way you act and the way you perform and the way you present yourself, not only to me, but out in public and everywhere you are. 

And if I care about you, I want to make sure that you are at your best at all times.  So, when you displeased me,  I want to make sure that you know why you displeased me and the reason for the punishment that's being given.  Punishment is also important because it shows the sub who's ultimately in charge. 

A sub wants her dom to take control,  and punishing your sub is a form of that control,  and it's something that the sub wants and needs, as much as the dom wants and needs that control as well.  Punishment is all dependent on the type of dynamic you have with your dominant or your sub.  It can range from anywhere from the  small and fun to the extreme depending on the type of relationship and dynamic you have within your DS dynamic and relationship that you have or the interaction that you're having. 

Here are the ones that have worked for me and the ones that I like. the most. And me being a gentle dom as I am, I like to use some punishments, I call them. I'm pretty sure you've heard them before, where they're more of a teasing and a fun play type thing. So if you've done something Mild to disappoint me or whatnot.

For example, if we're going to bed, I might make you kneel on the floor beside the bed and not let you in. No matter how much you complain or whine or cold or want to get in cuddles with daddy or whatever. The answer is no, not until I tell you, and I will tease you and bait you until we both have had enough, and then you can come in and cuddle with daddy. 

Another one that I like to use, the ones that make the sub think, thought provoking punishments.  These are the ones that,  if something has disappointed me, obviously I'll let you know what has disappointed me and why.  And, The punishment goes like this, I'll only call you by your real name throughout the entire day.

And that's it. I won't call you princess, baby girl, sweetheart, or little one. You become just like everyone else.  And that punishment has a deep connection because you lose that connection, that bond, that DDLG daddy little girl DS dominant sub connection. Just by not using the pet names that have become so familiar between you both.

And I find that one strikes home the most for me.  Things like access denial.  I'll read your texts, but I won't respond to them.  I'll give you less attention over the course of the day.  Just so you know, I am  very disappointed and displeased with what you have done.  The last one is more of a  physical punishment  and that can come in various forms but  I like to use the ones like orgasm denial,  edging you, edging you and edging you until you're on the brink and then  just  Stop,  and again, not give you any attention. 

And then bring you to close to orgasm again, and  not give you attention.  Just stop.  And that might happen a few times, it might happen over a day or two, but that one really hits home, because your orgasms are mine.  And I won't let you orgasm when I want you to.  Most of the time I do, because I get a lot of pleasure out of that as well.

But in the form of punishment, I think it's a just punishment.  Penalty for the crime.  Another one on the topic of orgasms  is fucking you senseless until you are a quivering mess and I've made you come over and over again,  but I don't give you My come, I don't come in you, I don't come on you, I don't give you the satisfaction of pleasing me.

And again, that's a big one for subs. Subs want to please their doms at almost any cost. And so denying them the pleasure. of giving me pleasure  can be a form of punishment.  And I find that one also hits home pretty hard for the sub because it  hits their value at their core of them.  The last physical punishment is more of the extreme and it's probably the most extreme that I would probably inflict upon my sub because  a,  I like to use this in a playful sex play way rather than in a punishment way.

I like to use it as a form of  You know who owns you during our sex play by spanking you, by giving you that  stay attentive, stay with me, don't go away from me, and I've got you, you're mine.  But spanking can also be a form of punishment.  Now you have to make sure that the sub knows that this is not a pleasurable thing.

It is going to be a punishment.  And again, that can be incorporated with, uh, Orgasm or orgasm denial, not giving you my orgasm while making you come while spanking you and something like that. So you can incorporate a few things like I like to do with that type of punishment. But I think for me that would be the most extreme form of punishment because I don't like inflicting  pain as a form of negativity.

I like inflicting it as a form of positive reinforcement.  Now, punishment isn't all negative. It does create discipline  and good habits. And really that's what we want to create between us is good habits, positive reinforcement, and discipline.  Punishment reinforces that discipline. It makes you remember what the good things are.

And what the unsavory parts are, and over time that creates a disciplinary action, not only with just those actions, but within our lives themselves. And I think that's very important for a dom to do is to create a discipline for their sub that makes them a better person.  Punishment is a little different with different DS relationships, including brats. 

Brats are attention seekers, and they like attention. Attention regardless in the form that it comes. So a negative punishment for them might be positive reinforcement to do the same action again, simply to get attention.  But I think that's going to be an episode all on its own.  So I will leave you with a little audio I did way in the past.

about discipline and disappointing your daddy.  Sometimes it's pleasurable, sometimes it's not, sometimes it's both. But it's always hot.  Earbuds in  and stay tingly.